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Reading body language

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Doesn't matter whether she is interested in you, you'll make her interested eventually anyway:) But look

for these signs to show you whether you're already making progress:) It's also fun to look for these signs

as a by-stander, either in everyday situations or for example in a bar - when the guy earnestly believes he

is being sooo smooth but the woman he is talking to isn't displaying any of the signs presented below,

you can't help but have a chuckle about it:)

Her lips:

• Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.

• Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth.

• She wets her lips, some women use only a single-lip lick, wetting the upper or lower lip, while

others run the tongue around the entire lip area.

• She puts her fingernail between her teeth.

• She protrudes her lips and thrust her breasts forward.

Her eyes:

• She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.

• She raises both eyebrows exaggeratedly for a couple of seconds, this is often combined with a

smile and some eye contact.

• She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.

• While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.

• Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile indicates interest in you.

Her hair:

• She pushes her fingers through her hair. This can be one hand movement or more of a stroking

motion.

• She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.

• She is throwing her hair back off her shoulders.

Her clothing:

• If she is wearing clothes that show her nipples underneath and you notice they are getting perky

and erect.

• The hem goes up to expose a little more leg.

• She is fixing, patting or smoothing her outfit to make herself look better.

While she is seated:

• She moves in time to the music, with her eyes on you.

• She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.

• She is sitting with her legs open.

• She sits with her legs crossed in a manner to reveal her thigh.

• Her legs are rubbing against each other.

• Her legs are rubbing against the leg of the table.

• Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

Her hands:

• She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.

• While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other

hand, palm up.

• She rubs her wrists up and down.

• She sits with one hand touching one of her breasts.

• She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her

relating in some way:)

• She is fondling keys, sliding hands up and down a glass, playing with toys or other things on the

table.

• She plays with her jewellery, especially with stroking and pulling motions.

• She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you (in case you already haven't

started kino yourself, dumbass:).

• She is pretending to look at her watch as you pass her.

Her voice

• She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.

• She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.

• She laughs in unison with you.

• In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

Micellaneous:

• She mirrors your body language and body positions.

• Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.

• She blows smoke straight out from between her lips and toward you.

• She leans over and speaks into her friend's ear, just like in junior high school.

• She is standing with her head cocked slightly at an angle, one foot behind the other, hips slightly

thrust forward.

• At a party - every once in a while she seems to appear out of nowhere in your vicinity and if you

move to another spot, soon she appears out of nowhere again, you catch her glancing in your

general direction (actually, glancing at YOU dummy!:), she bumps into you… accidentally,

touches you… accidentally etc:)

When talking to a girl, these are some of the more important signs to watch for:

• Can you keep conversation going with her?

• Does she react well to kino ?

• Does she touch you?

• Does she laugh?

Now I don't have to explain what the answer "yes" to these questions means, do I:)

From "Sweep women off their feet...": "All these signs usually tell you that the girl is captivated by your

charms. But before you get there, chances are that her body language changes as the discussion

progresses. Make sure that you watch her closely and as soon as you get a sign that should be an

indication that you are on the right track, keep going in that direction. If the opposite happens, just

change the subject and see what happens."

The really gorgeous and beautiful girls however very seldom get around to displaying the signs of

interest described above. They simply don't have to, as they are used to getting some attention already

long before that. With such girls you have to be on a lookout for the initial and thus much more subtle

signs of interest. One example of this would be a gorgeous girl simply looking at your face. Obviously

people tend to look at what or whom they like to look at. But whereas an average girl first just looks at

your face and then progresses into the more overt signs of interest described above, looking at your face

from time to time might be the only sign of interest you'll ever get from the most beautiful of girls.

So if you think you're not getting any signs of interest from beautiful girls - you are, but you just can't

see them well enough yet.

Don Steele: "Here are signs of interest sent from across the room. Most are applicable to both sexes. The

sequence of the list approximates the courtship sequence.

I'M INTERESTED

DON'T BOTHER ME

Never sneaks a peek

Fleeting eye contact

Looks away quickly

Looks away, eyes level

Posture unchanged

Does no preening

Turns body away

Head remains vertical

Eyes remain normal

Neutral, polite face

Posture unchanged

Normal or dull eyes

Keeps mouth closed

Sags to de-emphasize breasts

In Summary. Frequency of eye contact, the more the better. Amount of time she, or he, holds your

gaze, the longer the better. How she breaks off eye contact, down before away is great! Shine of the

eyes, the brighter the better. Direction of body, toward you, good, away, bad. Overall posture, erect

and alert are good. Tilt of head, vertical is bad, increased tilt is great. Where the drink is held, high in

front as a barrier, that's bad. Hand activity, clenched, squeezing or pinching is bad, open, caressing or

stroking is great.

Most of us are slightly afraid as well as somewhat excited in settings where social interaction is

expected and required. So, most people do not sit or stand in an open posture. But, during courtship,

the more open the other person's posture is, the more open that person is to you and your advances.

And, the more open you are, the more likely the other person is to open up to you. First Conversation

Signals. Men, pay attention to all the ways she communicates during the first few minutes as you talk

with her.

KEEP TALKING

Alert, energetic

Pupils dilated

Gradually opens posture

Lowers drink

Touches self gently

Caresses objects

Crosses and uncrosses legs

Flashes of palm

Crossed legs steady

Dangles shoe on toe

Hands never touch face

Touches you any reason

Feet firmly on floor

Loosens anything

Leans forward

Steady hands, feet

MOVE ON

Tense, restless

Normal or small pupils

Posture remains closed

Keeps drink high

Grips or pinches self

Squeezes, taps objects

Legs remain crossed

Back of hand gestures

Swings crossed legs

Keeps shoe on

Touches face

Never touches you

Feet on edges or toes

Tightens anything

Leans away

Tapping, drumming

Sidelong glance(s)

Looks at you a few times

Holds your gaze briefly

Downcast eyes, then away

Posture changes to alert

Preens, adjusts hair, attire

Turns body toward you

Tilts head

Narrows eyes slightly

Smiles

Matches your posture

Eyes sparkle

Licks her lips

Thrusts breasts

In social settings, most of us start out in a closed,

defensive posture because we're a bit apprehensive.

A closed posture feels safe. When the person you

are talking with shifts to a more open posture, it

signifies trust and comfort. That person is, literally,

opening up to you and what you have to offer.

It takes courage to open up to the other person. If

you go first, she, or he, will usually follow your

move from closed to slightly more open. Open up

in, slow, gradual shifts of posture.

A variation of mirroring is discussed in the articles dealing with eliciting values and using trance-words -

that is verbal mirroring. But a better-known variation of mirroring is physical mirroring. Actually, you've

most probably been doing it all your life without knowing it but once you know how to harness the power

of mirroring consciously - its like young Skywalker recognizing and harnessing the power of the Force:).

Notice how people that seem to be engaged in an interesting conversation - they are excited about what

they themselves are saying, they are about to say and what the other is saying, in other words, they have

rapport - seem to take the same poses, whether sitting or standing up. When sitting, either side by side or

on opposites sides of the table - one leans forward and then the other leans forward as well, one leans

backward and then the other leans backward as well, they cross their hands in the same manner, tilt their

heads similarly, seem to be having similar side-activities (one playing with his keychain, the other with

her pen), etc etc. Are they directing their actions consciously? No, all their energies and concentration is

on the discussion, everything else happens subconsciously. But actually, they don't even have to be

having a discussion, they may just both be thinking their own thoughts… and still you can see mirroring

going on - they make the same movements almost the same time without seemingly without having any

perceivable interaction with the other person.

What is all this knowledge good for? Well, mirroring can be used as a tool for building rapport. Being

similar or having someone similar in your vicinity creates a feeling of ease, comfort, being understood,

protected (should there appear a threat of any sort, there's two of you now:) etc. So you can use the power

of mirroring to create these feelings in the one you are mirroring, she'll subconsciously link all those

feelings to you (after all, you are the one mirroring her:) and rapport is going to develop between you

without you having lifted a finger (unless she lifted a finger and you had to mirror her:).

How, whom and from where should I mirror? Whom - that's easy, the girl you want of course:) How -

assuming the same posture, doing the same movements with your hands, in all respects using your body

in a similar fashion to hers. More aspects of mirroring are:

• Following - doing the movements after she did them. Note that although your mind screams,

"This is stupid! I'm going to get caught! She MUST see me doing the same movements! This is

ridiculous!” don't' listen to it, fight it, it is the voice of the Dark Side!:) Why? Because they

NEVER NOTICE it! Instead, they feel more comfortable and relaxed in connection with you, and

eventually (that's why you even bothered, right?:) - more drawn to you.

• Pacing - doing the movements the same time with her. Yes. Sounds impossible? Well it isn't.

Have you ever noticed how you sometimes happened to do the same things at exactly the same

time with another person? Maybe yawn and then have a laugh about it:)? Because you thought it

was accidental? Well it wasn't, you had reached the second stage of mirroring:) (Yawning is not a

good example though; the last thing you want is the girl yawning with you:). But there's nothing

magical or supernatural about doing the movements at the same time, because essentially the

second phase is a stage of transition between the first and the third. In mirroring there's always a

leader and a follower. So far she has been leading you (because you've been following her) but

now you are coming to the stage when YOU will be leading her! And the inevitable stage

between following and leading is pacing - you are doing movements simultaneously.

• leading - if you've done your mirroring right, have followed and paced, then you are ready for a

revelation. You can lead! Try it. Cough. She coughs. Scratch your elbow. Well maybe she'll

scratch her shoulder instead of her elbow, big deal:) In addition to being a tool of building

rapport, you can lead her into doing some pretty fun stuff. Do a movement with your hands

mimicking the parting of legs (this should be associated with something you are talking about, if

it looks strange, she'll notice it and you don't want her conscious attention on your movements,

keep her mind busy with what you're talking about). Watch her legs part:) Have fun:)

Another more advanced aspect, although controversial as to the effectiveness of it, is mirroring her

blinking her eyes and breathing. Being able to mirror her breathing and blinking her eyes is supposed to

create an even deeper rapport, but first of all - trying to see when she breathes might seem like you staring

at her breasts (and you would NEVER do that, would you?:); and secondly - all the concentration required

to detect and match your breathing and blinking with hers will take away much-needed attention from

what she is saying, how is she responding to your patterns, values, kino etc, so eventually this could do

more harm than good.

As to from where to mirror - the most common situation is when you're talking to her. But you can also

try mirroring from a distance, say in a classroom, meeting, night-club or cafeteria, just make sure she has

a chance to subconsciously detect you mirroring her, in other words, she must be able to see you (so you

can forget about mirroring her while watching her take a shower through a peep-hole:).

A technique of creating instant rapport by "faking" body-language. Tom, ASF : "I just finished another

book about body language, and they mention several times that when someone is interested in a

discussion, they tilt their head slightly. I thought that now that I knew when someone was interested,

maybe I could do the same to "simulate" my deep interest in what they say. And... it works! When

someone's like "and you know, my dog just got a new collar and it fits wondefully with the living room

furniture; the shade of green is just the same as the kid's bedroom carpet and that's great because..." -

usually you would be using a few words they said (dog, collar, etc) and using the same adjectives

(wonderful, great, etc) and ask something making them continue. But when you tilt your head slightly and

do the same thing, it's obvious the impact is much stronger."

Maxim (http://maximmag.com):

“I love it when a guy sort of mirrors my physical behavior, like when I’m sitting across from him and I

lean in to say something, I like him to lean in. If I’m talking really fast, and he can keep up with me, it

makes me feel like we’re in the same place. If I’m being a little frenetic and he’s slow and relaxed and

laid-back, I feel really far away.

—Carlie, 30, Salt Lake City”

Kinesthetics (aka kino) - have kino with your female friends/acquaintances

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Psychological studies show that casual touching during a friendly conversation causes people to

remember the conversation more fondly after the fact.

The combination of kino with social proof is dynamite. Touch one girl and the other girls seeing this

think its normal or even "good" to be touchy-feely with you:). Now you can quite naturally move on to

touching those other girls and so forth:).

ASF : "It's quite simple - hug them, touch their hand sporadically and in A NON THREATENING

WAY, that is, not like the desperate pervert we all are:) So the idea is, you hide completely the interest

you might have AND at the same time you act really touchy/huggish. The problem is - you have to start

this early in the "friend" relationship, it has to seem natural, or otherwise she'll wonder "what the fuck is

he doing lately?":) Once you've developed that kind of flirtatious friendship, it's easy to spawn other

such 'friendships' with other women: they will see you being close to another woman, and I think the key

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