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FLIRTING IN THE

ST CENTURY

Now we are in the Noughties or "Naughties"

more single people are worried about

finding love. Why? They’ve spent the

nineties racing to achieve career success.

Now they are asking themselves ‘is this

worth anything without someone to share it

with?’ The answer is often ‘no’.

You won’t find love unless you’re out there

interacting with people. And when you do,

you need to be able to interact with that

person in a way that allows you to discover

if they are right for you and for you to

radiate the best of yourself so that they are

attracted to you.

Apart from love, most of us want to enjoy

successful, fulfilling careers and have good

friends around us. The type of flirting I

promote is one that can either be very sexual or simply very social or a mixture of

both. And great flirting, when practised appropriately and with the right attitude, is a

gateway to more romance, deeper friendship, enhanced professional relationships and

a definite feel-good sensation in you and the people you flirt with.

PLACES TO FLIRT YOUR HEART OUT

WORKPLACE

3 PLANS FOR THE BUSINESS OF FLIRTING

Warning!

To get the most from workplace flirting follow

these recommendations: don’t be an overt

sexual flirt, you might give the impression you’ll

exchange sex for business favours such as

promotion or to get someone to do something

for you. Your colleagues will resent you and

you might end up getting more than you

bargained for. Turn down your sexual pilot

light to the lowest setting when flirting in

professional situations, until you know how far

you can go with the person.

Benefits

Most people know that when you want to win

people over, a little flirting goes a long way. The

person who consistently makes other people feel

good by smiling at them, paying attention to them,

showing they are interested and telling them when

they do something well is the person who is most

likely to succeed. If it’s a choice between you and

someone with the same abilities, you’ll win every

time because you bring that added feel-good

factor to your work and clients

Tips

1. Always start with very mild flirtation. Some

people will appear as outrageous flirts and

others won’t approve. Turn up the heat

accordingly.

SUPERMARKETS

3 SURE-FIRE WAYS TO PULL THE APPLE

OF YOUR EYE

Benefits

Eve was wandering around the aisles of Eden

Garden supermarket when she spied a luscious,

round, juicy, Pink Lady® apple. She plucked it

from the shelf, took a bite and so wonderful

was it that she immediately offered it to Adam.

Unable to resist her wiles, Adam tasted the

forbidden fruit and well you know the rest.

Do you want to tempt your Adam or your Eve?

Supermarkets are the ideal location.

2. Keep a friendly fact file on work colleagues

and clients. Record birthdays, interests, family

information, dreams, passions and snippets of

info that tell you about them. You are taking

an interest in people. Use that information to

start a conversation, cheer them up, or pass on

a contact or article that will be useful to them,

they will feel special and valued and remember

you as the instigator of those feelings

3. Here’s a simple way to flirt with everyone you

meet at your work. Decide that you are going

to talk to as many different people as possible

in the day. Each time you pass someone in the

corridor, make eye contact, smile and just say

Hi, or greet them in some general way. Be the

person who makes people smile with a

compliment or a timely joke or a suggestion or

offer of help. This will pay off in many

different ways.

Everyone has to shop, so at one time or

another most of the singles who live locally to

you will be found wandering the aisles of their

local grocery store. If you don’t find what you

want in one, visit another. Pick a supermarket

that has a good coffee bar, where you could

invite someone for a quick post-shop coffee.

Tips

1. Checkout their shopping. No baby products,

small portions of anything and ready meals in

single servings in a hand basket are sure signs

of a singleton shopper.

2. Use produce as props. Pick up a Pink Lady ®

apple and say to someone – ‘Did you know

these apples are meant to be flirty?’ while you

make eye contact and smile.

3. Be curious and friendly. Ask about an item in

their trolley – is that any good? Start a small

talk conversation.

CAFÉS AND BARS

3 RECIPES FOR FRIVOLOUS FLIRTING

Benefits

Cafés and bars are people containers and linked

to social activities. Generally people go there to

relax, meet friends and eat. People visit coffee

shops to pass the time of day. They’re casual

and a fairly good place to make a move! Most

single people feel OK about sitting alone with a

coffee. Bars tend to be more problematic if

they are too crowded or play loud music. Avoid

these venues as flirtation spots especially on

Fridays and Saturdays.

Tips

1. Set the scene. As you walk into a café/bar

hold up your head, sashay your hips; men, pull

back your shoulders a little and smile. Make eye

contact with as many people as possible as you

move to your seat. Now they are all aware of

you and you won’t seem such a stranger if you

choose to make a move.

Eat your food sensually, use your tongue

occasionally to lick your lips. Make eye contact

as you open your mouth to spoon in something

delicious. Think about sharing it with them.

They’ll get a strong sexy signal from you.

Find an excuse to go somewhere where they

can initiate a conversation with you comfortably

and look at them and tilt your head in the

direction you are moving in and smile. If they’re

interested they may feel inspired to follow you

and make a move. If not, have the waiter pass

them a note with your mobile or pager number

or you could do it yourself. Wait briefly, until

look at it, then just smile at them and leave.

TRAVELLING

3 ROUTES FOR A FLIRTY JOURNEY

Benefits

Many single people travel alone. It’s the

greatest way to meet new people and explore

without being tied down. A traveller is

expected to approach people so that makes it

easier. When you are in a foreign country or

away from home it’s easier to let out the real

you. You don’t worry about people judging you

because they don’t know you and you might not

meet again.

2. Pick your position. Make sure you sit at a

table with the widest view of the restaurant. If

in a coffee bar, sit somewhere everyone has to

pass to get their coffee or even go to the loo. If

you’re by the loo talk to them on the way out,

not on the way in! If you’re a bit of a comedian

you can really have fun with this one and get

away with it.

Talking to other travellers is a great way of

passing time on a long journey and who knows

you might make a good friend or find out some

useful information or even more.

Tips

1. Travelling involves reading maps, finding your

way. It’s a great opportunity to ask someone

you fancy to help you.

2. Carry a Pink Lady ® (or two) with you at all

times. If you’re with a foreigner, tell them about

these wonderful apples that are supposed to be

flirty. And when you’re done with it as a flirting

prop, Pink Lady ® is a perfect energising travel

snack and you can offer the second one to

your flirtee!

3. The 3-step flirt. If you see someone you like

across a crowded room, check out the body

language to see if they’re with someone. You

don’t want red wine all over that white shirt or

slinky dress, do you! Make eye contact while

smiling and incline or raise your glass towards

them. Look away. Repeat two or three times.

Note their reaction. If they smile back, raise

their glass back, the flirtation has begun.

3. Tell your flirtee you’re thinking about writing

a traveller’s guide to flirting and ask them if

they’ve had any flirting successes while

travelling. It’s a great conversation opener and

you’ll probably end up with enough stories to

write the guide or at least to amuse your

friends and who knows, getting them into a

flirty mood might open the door to more!

husband/wife breathing down your neck, do

you? When you find the position where most

people pass by, station yourself there. Say hello

to people as they come by. After all it’s a social

gathering, it’s expected! You’re giving them a

signal that you are open to meeting. Have your

personal and business cards to hand and easily

reachable. Always be prepared to hand them

out and tell someone that you’d like to see

them again and make it clear why.

SOCIAL EVENTS

FLIRTING FOR THE FUN OF IT

Benefits

Being able to flirt with many people at a social

event is great for building positive connections

that other people want to continue. Even when

you don’t have much time with one person, you

can flirt with them in such a way that they’ll

remember you. You can flirt with a lot of

people briefly and still manage to set the scene

for further contact or an invitation.

3. If someone is boring you, it’s easy to get

away, by making a gesture like a cough and

briefly looking away towards a group of people

and back again saying, ‘Would you excuse me? I

have to speak to someone – nice meeting you’.

It’s vague and acceptable enough to get you out

gracefully.

Tips

1. If you want to break into a group, hover on

the edge and listen carefully to what they say.

If it seems alien to you move on

to another group. Think of

them as friendly people who

are just as keen as you to

make new contacts. Look at

the person talking if you can

and make brief eye contact

with the rest of the group.

Smile as you do this. If a

point in the discussion arrives

where you have something to

add that might be useful, then

wait till one person’s finished,

and start in. You could begin

by saying ‘that’s really

interesting… and

agree/disagree or make your

comment. The eye contact and

smiles will make the group

open to listening to you and

letting you in.

So, it’s as simple as that! Why don’t you adopt

and adapt some of the rules above to fit into

your own flirting agenda?

2. Move around the event/party

checking out and scanning all

the rooms making lots of eye

contact and extending it if you

see someone you like. Try to

get a sense of who is coupled

and who is alone while you do

this. You don’t want to make

eyes at someone and find their

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