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GettInG lucky

by AFC AdamLondon

Ok, we are all aware of the phrase,

“getting lucky”... well; Luck =

Preparation Meeting Opportunity.

However… I took a spare helmet. Why? This

was a conscious choice I made before going

to the club. I knew that If i didn’t bring a

spare helmet I couldn’t take a girl home. I

would have allowed myself to fail. I realised

that subconsciously I was weighing up the

decision to carry it.

Well lAst niGht i made a decision

that made me realise just how much that

statement shouldn’t apply to us.

The phrase getting lucky implies that we

have no control over the results… or little

control at least. So the essence of game

should remove this, right?

A part of my mind was actually convincing

me to leave it at home as it “would be

hassle to carry” Though on analysis I realised

actually it was a form of AA. I was allowing

myself to fail to get an F-close. So that if I did

well in a set and wasn’t sure if I could get her

home, I could always say to myself. “no point

going to get her home, you only have one

helmet”

A good friend of mine described luck as

preparation meeting opportunity. You can’t

capitalise on a “break” if you aren’t ready for

it.

e.g. HB comes over to sit with you (giving you

proximity) yet your fear of approach stops

you from talking to her. If you were prepared

and had practiced you would be able to start

the conversation after recognising the IOI

and get the girl…

So I made the decision and took it with me.

I played in the club, Chinas on a wednesday

is kinda one of my haunts. Bumped into

the PUA training crowd, said hi but didn’t

really mingle with them as I wanted to do

some lone stuff. So I moved from table to

table mingling with the groups of girls I

am on pretty good terms with. The key for

me here was to build up masses of social

proof without my own table. So I was using

contacts to get introduced to others.

However this runs deeper. How many of you

have been in the game for a while, yet still

go home empty handed… are you missing

something… Something other than IOI’s or

conversation hooks.

Are you prepared to get laid?

Anyway. It ended with me chatting to one

portugese girl. As we go to leave the club she

spots my second helmet.

Last night I took my brand new vespa

(Which I love) to China whites nightclub.

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HB: Hey you didn’t tell me you had two

helmets, you can ride me home.

AFC AdamLondon: Oh man… I can’t be arsed.

HB: Oh come on… we’ve danced and chatted

all night it’s the proper thing to do.

AFC AdamLondon: Oh man I really don’t

want to.

HB: Come on you’re taking me home.

AFC AdamLondon: Where do you live?

HB: White City

AFC AdamLondon: Oh no man that really is

far. Seriously I don’t want to. Another night.

HB: Come on… Show me your bike, be a

gentleman.

AFC AdamLondon: Ok babe… fair enough I’ll

take you…

HB: I thought you were taking me home.

AFC AdamLondon: I am….

AFC AdamLondon: In the morning. I need my

sleep irst.

In we go, we get to bed, we cuddle… we

don’t sleep... We kiss… We F-Close.

Now the key here is that I couldn’t have

done it if I had allowed myself to fail by not

bringing the helmet. (Which ultimately got

me the lay)

So beware... Be prepared. Have condoms,

plan to come home with someone, and you

will increase the chances of it happening if

you do.

So now I ask you… Stop reading.. Who’s

frame is this? Am I in hers? Or is she in mine?

(mwahahahahahaha)

There are a lot of community guys I know

that don’t prepare, they aren’t sure where or

how they will take a girl home to F-Close her.

So we get on my bike, she negs me for poor

driving, I tell her she’s wrong and that she is

drunk and so thinks the road is swerving.

Plan yours.

How will you close them? Where?

And we ride…

Are you ready for success?

To my house!

(Shocked)

HB: Where are we?

AFC AdamLondon: My house.

HB: Why?

AFC AdamLondon: I’m tired

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socIal proof

by AFC AdamLondon

Social proof is essentially a means

to generate Pre-selection, and

Propinquity.

were looked at by women with neutral

expressions.

So we can see from the test that women

generally prefere men that other women

are already attracted to. As certain emotions

can be ambiguous to see from a distance

or without understanding the context; a

harmless smile will often be perceived by

others as a signature of attraction.

Pre-seleCtion WAs A form of

attraction that I feel was adequately outlined

in a psychological test covered last year

by Benedict Jones. The theory behind Pre-

selection has been around since the mid

1900’s and argueably before, however I feel

this test sums it up more than well enough

for our purposes.

Therefore the more people you speak to

in a room and leave feeling good about

themselves with regards to you the more

pre-selection you will generate. This could be

done by anything from going around taking

pictures of people, to getting everyone to

dance, to buying everyone a drink, to just

saying hi to everyone you meet.

the test

Benedict Jones Test 05.02.06 participants

irst viewed eight pairs of male faces and

indicated which face in each pair they

preferred and how strongly they preferred

it. Following this, participants viewed a

slideshow where they saw the same pairs of

male faces, but in which a woman was shown

looking at one of the men in each pair with

either a happy expression (i.e. smiling) or a

relatively negative (i.e. neutral) expression.

After the slide show, participants repeated

the initial face preference test.

However Social Proof is even more powerful

as it also generates Propinquity, and this is a

form of comfort.

Preselection = Attraction

Propinquity = Comfort

results

For female participants, a paired samples t-

test comparing the change in mean strength

of preference for target faces in the happy

and neutral conditions showed that the

increase in preference for faces that were

smiled at by women during the observation

phase was greater than that for faces that

Attraction + Comfort = Lay

(Awesome formula eh? Who Said I was crap

at maths.)

Propinquity is the term used to describe a

physical proximity, special bond, or some

form of kinship between things. Psychology

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views this is one of the leading triggers in

interpersonal or social attraction. It roughly

relates to being close to someone else in

some form or another. This could be in

physical terms, i.e you live in the same area

as someone or not so physical, you both

belong to the same association. The closer

the proximity the higher the propinquity.

For example those living on the same loor

in a building have a higher propinquity than

those on different loors.

apartment building living near a stairway

tend to have more friends from other loors

than others. Propinquity also applies to

Social groups. These could consist of class

mates, friendship social circles or even work

colleagues, and explains the tendency for

teachers to date teachers, members of the

police force to date each other and so on.

In 1956 Alan C Kerckhoff conducted a study

on residential propinquity, around 70% of

the married couples lived within 20 blocks

of their partner before marriage. This seems

obvious when you think about it. Yet it is

something people don’t really think about.

In this Diagram we can see that A and B

would both be attracted to C as C lies within

both of A and B’s Circle. Likewise C would

be attracted to both A and B and would

have the option of choosing either. D is the

outsider of the group, and therefore holds

the lowest levels of attraction to any of the

other parties.

It seems strange to say that just being close

to somebody generates attraction, yet if you

notice the amount of IOI’s you get if you see

a girl every morning on the same train, or

from someone who lives in the apartment

block opposite you. You will almost always

begin to say hello every day. Obviously this

isn’t the be all and end all, however it is the

start. Social proof enables us to generate this

regularly creating this initial spark whenever

we vybe with a room showing that the room

is our social circle and that they are part of it.

The propinquity effect is the tendency

for people to form friendships or

romantic relationships with those whom

they encounter often. In other words,

relationships tend to be formed between

those who have a high propinquity. It

was irst theorized by psychologists Leon

Festinger, Stanley Schachter, Kurt Lewin and

Kurt Bach in what came to be called as the

Westgate studies conducted MIT university in

1950

It is powerful because it is a passive form of

game, When run correctly it enables you to

get opened. My wing and best friend Jim

Stark used this to close his incredibly hot

current girlfriend who is a slim blonde model

type and at least 6 inches taller than Jim. She

Propinquity can be more than just physical

distance. For example, residents of an

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