Sex Secrets for the Gay Man

The most amazing thing about the internet is now that you can find Love,

Friendship or even SEX with a click of a button!

What You Need to Know About Online Dating… First!

Online dating is not all fun and games and there are a lot of things that a person has to know about

online dating before one gets into the intricacies of it. Online dating may seem to be the simplest thing

in the world but it is not. It should be viewed in all earnestness or things could go haywire. Every game

has its rules and unless you know all the rules you just can't become a good player and eventually a

winner.

What Makes Online Dating So Different?

We, human beings have been in this world for so many thousands of years. And since the beginning

people have been choosing partners. Cultures across the world are very different and we can come

across so many different ways in which people choose their life mates. But the concept of finding a life

partner with the help of the Internet is a fairly recent concept when compared with the history of

mankind as such. Of course the Internet and computers have influenced man's life so much that it is

no surprise that in the matters of finding a suitable partner too, the Internet has made its presence felt.

Online dating is, to put is very simply or flatly, finding a partner with the help of a machine namely the

computer via the Internet. That itself makes the idea and the process a very novel one indeed,

Hundreds of happy people across the globe have been successful in finding suitable partners by the

means of online dating. But to be frank with you, a lot of not-so-lucky persons have been goofed and

jilted by the same process. So in order to make sure that you find a place in the first list let us go into

the details of Online dating.

Alright then! But.. Why!?

Everything that applies to the Internet, applies to Online dating as well. The Internet as we know

allows for unlimited possibilities in communication, and it is this feature that has proved to be at the

same time the biggest boon, as well as bane for Online dating.

People can start from scratch and get to know everything about each other before the actual meeting

takes place. Tastes and preferences, likes and dislikes, interests and obsessions can be discussed on

a one to one basis so that when the meeting actually takes place these two people are not in the least

strangers to each other. Wonderful, isn't it? But at the same time this possibility for unlimited

communication leaves a lot of space for guile as well. The human race is endowed with a remarkable

ability to use, misuse and abuse the same thing. And naturally, Online dating too has been and is still

being used for vile purposes. The person who is misusing this facility may either be a practical joker or

may be someone with more devious intentions who is out to get some victims. It is because of this

reason that a little bit of homework is good before you actually hit the road. But you do not have to

worry, the home work has already been painstakingly done for you and all you have to do is run your

eyes along the following lines and you will be all set to strike gold.

How Did Online Dating Become So Popular?

The reason is pretty simple . It is very much the same reason that the Internet itself became so

popular. The Internet opens up a whole new world of communication and contact. And the reasons for

this are given below.

Speed

Try to picture what used to happen earlier in the days when people had to depend on the good ol'

postal system. During those days, a person had to wait for one or two days for a letter to get across to

a person who lived in the same state itself. The second person in turn would take one or two days to

respond and this letter would take on or two days to get back to the first person.

So in effect, a single correspondence would stretch over a week. But now it's a totally different story.

The time taken for the first letter and the response has been brought to an amazing 2 minutes! Waiting

may make the heart grow fonder but e-mail makes two people get close faster!

Privacy

The Internet provides for absolute privacy too. One can carry out communication with another person

in the absolute privacy of one's bedroom or bath room or wherever one chooses to be. There is no

fear of eavesdropping (ugh) or over hearing (shudder!) thanks to e-mail and chat facilities.

Options and Opportunities

The Internet provides for other options like voice chat or video conferencing and stops short only of

the physical touch. But then who would want to start a relationship by touching right away? You can

see a person, talk to a person, and listen to the person's voice, can you think of a better way to start a

date?

Economy

All this and more it is possible thanks to the Internet and the best part is that all this comes to you for

peanuts. All you need is a PC ( who doesn’t have one? ) and an Internet Connection ( how can anybody

live without one ?) and you are all set. The only thing more you could ask for is a step-by-step guide to

find your dream date…well here it is! So what are we waiting for?

Online Dating Is Here To Stay!

Let's accept the fact that dating couldn't really get better. Online dating is THE real thing . Let's

compare it to the old system of evening balls or social gatherings. Imagine you are this big gathering

where there are a lot of men and women looking out for suitable partners. Suppose you bump into one

or two people with whom you seem to strike an immediate rapport. You are then able to take this

person out onto a balcony with just the moon to keep an eye on you. You get to talk to this person for

hours and hours; just talk and nothing else. You get to discuss likes and dislikes then finally when it is

time to part you leave with a promise to meet on a following day at an equally enjoyable spot. These

talks go on for days and weeks and finally you decide that this indeed is THE person with whom you

want to spend the rest of your life with. Then of course you start meeting in more open places, you

hold hands and even kiss. You begin to go out for lunch and dinner and spend even more intimate

time together. When the moment is right and your decision is made, it then becomes time for you to

say, “ I do .” Sigh ! It sounds like a nice fairy tale, doesn't it?

Well it needn't be. It could be your own love story because the concept of online dating is just what

has been described above. If you click the right buttons everything could work out fine for you and we

have evidence to prove it. Just take a look at the figures given below and you can behold for yourself

what a universal phenomenon online dating has already become. As I mentioned earlier, one of the

best things about online dating is that it affords a lot of privacy. You can chat for hours, video

conference, or do whatever it is you care to do without arousing the interest of others or attracting the

wrong kind of attention. All you need is a computer and Internet access everything becomes as

discreet as can be. But along with that, may I add that we need a little bit of common sense as well or

else we might find ourselves within the clutches of many lurid monsters lurking out there. Another

good thing about online dating is that it saves a lot of money which otherwise you would have had to

splurge each time you took someone out on a date. It is because of these reasons and many more

personal reasons that thousands of people find online dating to be a great convenience.

How To Get The Most Out Of Online Dating

Many people who decide to give online dating a try often end up with their hair singed and fingers

burnt. The reason we decided to put together such a manual is that online dating is not as simple as it

looks. You need to know how to go about it in order to get the best out of it. Most people do not like to

take chances and when it comes to finding a life partner people do not want to take chances at all. But

you can relax for through this manual we will be dealing with all the do‟s and the don'ts and so the

whole process will be quite easy and enjoyable to you. This manual will provide you with step-by-step

instructions on how to being online dating.

We have no doubts about the decision-making abilities of our readers and so we do not propose to

give a lot of advice on the issue. Our purpose is simply to provide a couple of guidelines which we

hope our readers will find valuable as they proceed in the attempt to find the perfect partner.

Getting Started

“Only fools rush in where angels fear to tread”.

It is always best to approach unfamiliar territory with caution. You need to plan before you actually go

out there and start dealing your cards. Be sure about yourself and be sure about what you want. Just

because anyone and everyone can type out whatever they want in a chat room doesn't mean that we

have to do the same. The Internet has a wonderful quality of being accessible to every one. But this

same quality attracts all kinds of people into it. But just because a lot of people who enter a chat room

have only dirt on their minds, it doesn't mean that everyone is like that. If you stick to the class that

you have and maintain your poise, you can indeed get the right kind of response. There are a lot of

nice people using the Internet, but it all depends on what you do. Do onto others what you want them

to do to you is the golden rule that applies here. There are no rules for the game. All are players out

there. But just because others are ruffians, it doesn't mean that you have to be one too. Your approach

is the only thing that can get you the kind of response that you want. I don't think that it is very

sensible to decide all of the sudden that you would like to use the Internet to get a date. By just

entering a chat room and saying “I'm available” you are merely putting yourself up for sale, and will

most likely not get the results you desire. One point that all of us have to understand is that in a chat

room, all are equal. Do not go by the misconception that entering a chat room is like sauntering into a

ball room dressed in your best. Then everyone turns to stare at you and the most eligible person (read

that as the sexiest person of the same sex) catches your eye and makes his or her way towards you.

That kind of thing happens only in James Bond movies and we all know that James Bond never goes in for a

serious relationship. It's all fun and games for him. It could go either way for you.

Where Do You Start?

The first tip we would like to give you is NOT to go straight away into a singles chat room (aim chat

room for example) and try to find somebody who would interest you. All of us know that most of such

chat rooms are virtually flooded with people who have only one thing on their mind - sex. So, no

matter what you ask for, it always ends up in that and the purpose is defeated. You will never get the

kind of person who kind of matches your interests and tastes. Sometimes it can really get quite

infuriating. Everything starts off well. You are having a nice conversation with a person and warming

up when all of the sudden, the topic moves towards the three letter word. The you let out a sigh and

either have to bar messages from that person and risk the person bad mouthing you in a public chat

room. Usually you have to leave the chat room all together. In other words, it is the easiest thing to

get someone to sleep with you but if you are looking for something more enduring, like a

partner for life, then you are going to have to be a little more patient . The pick of the litter is not

easy to find. But you do find it; it is going to be worth the effort. So instead of going into a singles chat

room, what you could do is, you could try the whole thing out from a different angle.

I'll mention the two websites I've had the best success with,

and know for a FACT that you will too!!

Gcruise

This is my personal favorite. It's great because theres plenty of fish

in this sea, and you can even find couples.. yes two men ;)

I am still an active member in this community, I highly suggest you become

one also! You will NOT regret it!

Outpersonals

This site is my second favorite. I am also an active member in this community,

this is why I LOVE online dating! You can join more than one community and

have dates or hookups when-ever the hell you want to!

Common Interests

A human being is not like a piece of glass though which you can look and see the other side. A human

being is more like a diamond, which when held against light reflects and deflects light so that a myriad

of colors are seen. We're complex.

We have a lot of interest and the interests of one person need not match with the interests of another.

But thankfully the interests are not as numerous as human beings. So we are bound to find a lot of

people who share our interests. And if we can find someone like that, then our search should end

there. So, what are your interests? That is something for you to find out. Mind you, you might have to

do some serious thinking before you level down you preferences. There might be a lot of things that

you enjoy doing but about which you have given a second thought. Your interests could be something

like sports or outdoor activities. Or you could think of interests like social work or cross-words or

religious interests. Keep the ball rolling; please understand that the words I have listed here are mere

suggestions. Your tastes and interests could be very different. So let them be. And once you have

decided on what your interests are then half the story is done.

What Interests You In A Person?

This is probably the more important part of the story. Each one of us has to sit and think about what

we would like in another person. Having the same interests doesn't necessarily mean that you can get

along with a person. For example, if you a person who likes to talk a lot, it doesn't mean that you could

like another person who likes to talk a lot as well. If two people try to keep talking at the same time

then obviously, there cannot be any dialogue. So also, if you are the silent reserved type and the other

person too is the silent reserved type, the there will hardly be any dialogue at all! The word over here

is “compatible.” The interests of partners should complement each other and not clash.

Keyword Searches

So now that you have decided what is it that interests you in a person and what your interests and

tastes are, try such key word searches on a search engine like Google. The idea over here is not to

advertise yourself as a person who is in search of a life partner. No matter how well you put it, it looses

that touch of subtlety once you are in a singles chat room. So don't do it that way. You remember how

we spoke about working backwards; this is how it is done. We will tell you how to project yourself best

in a later chapter but for now let us talk about finding Mr. Right or Ms. Right. An interesting thing to be

noted here is that it is not difficult to fall in love with a person or to make a choice. The difficult part is

to make the right choice and to fall in love with the right person.

Friends First

Try to look at this endeavor not as a prospective husband/wife hunt but as an effort to make a lot of

friends, and I mean good friends. Friends that you can laugh aloud with, friends who make you laugh.

Not everyone can make us laugh, and when I say laugh, I am not referring to some comedian. We are

talking about friends here.

It really does pay to have a lot of friends. It makes ones life richer. The best thing about friends is that

you can be yourself with them. And they too can be themselves with you. And that means letting it all

out. We must remember that apart from being the dutiful husband or wife, your spouse should be your

best friend as well. That is one mistake that most couples make. They tend to look upon their friends

and their spouses as separate. While it is perfectly ok to have your own friends, your best friend

should always be your husband or wife. It should be someone you can share your dreams and fears

with, someone who understands, someone who can give your hand a gentle squeeze when things go

wrong and someone who can brighten up your darkest day. All this is a very far cry from sex right ?

That is why we did mention earlier that looks and sex should be the last criteria in the selection of a life

partner. The marriage proposal must come as a natural sequence and it should by no means be the

first thing that comes out as soon as you warm up to a person. You cannot very well say something

like, “ Hey, you know what, I think we have the same tastes so let’s get married. ” You can say that of

course but it would not be in very good taste. So what do you do if you discover that one of the friends

that you made and the one who you were keeping your fingers crossed about is already married? Do

you have a car? Then the answer is simple, just run over that person‟s spouse and remove the

unwanted element, right? Wrong! It is just not done. You can still be friends with that person and shift

your attention towards another direction. Who knows, you might even find a better person. All you

have to do is shuffle your cards and deal them out again. I hope you have got the hang of what we

meant by working backwards now? Good. There is another catch involved in this process. There is a

chance that one of the friends that you made may have read this book too and maybe the proposal

may come from the other end.

Making Yourself Look Like A Million Dollars

Nobody is perfect in this world but that does not mean that we cannot try to look our best. There is

absolutely nothing wrong in giving nature a helping hand. Work on your image, work on your profile,

and work on your appearance. Many people go by the philosophy, “ This is me, whether you like it or

not it’s your problem. I am not going to change. ” Well, nobody is asking you to change, but what are

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